Back in the Saddle Again

When I was single the first time around I was a little boy crazy.  Okay, a lot boy crazy!  My college journal was filled with things about boys.  I'm seriously tempted to burn them all.  I'm so, so very glad that social media was not around back then.  I would have never got anything done at all.

This time around I'm a little wiser, more mature but boy do I still enjoy checking guys out.  A perk to being divorced is that I can look...and then keep looking.  The internet has provided a lot of wonderful things and one of these is how one of my favorite bloggers put it best, people shopping in the form of online dating.  This is whole new territory for me.  It was starting to gain popularity before I got married but it's in full swing now.  My initial thought was that it wasn't for me, I wasn't that desperate.  But finding a guy in Brigham poses some challenges, mainly the lack of opportunity to meet single guys my age.  So where is a great place to meet them?  Online dating, of course!

My first choice was to go with ldssingles.com.  Seemed like a great place to start.  It's key for me to find someone of my own religion since we already know how they other way turned out.  I've been on the site for a few months and how many guys have actually contacted me?  Oh about 4, that's it.... You can hear crickets on this sight.  Not the results I was looking for.  I was bored.

So my next choice was an app that I heard a lot about and knew it would be anything but boring.  In fact I knew and expected it to be downright entertaining.  We're talking about Tinder. Dun, dun, dun!  Tinder is a little bit different in that it shows you profiles of guys one by one and you can choose to like them or dislike them.  If you and a guy like each other's profiles then you're a match and you can message each other.  Fun right!  People shopping at it's finest.  Tinder has a reputation of being an app where people use it solely for hooking up.  I thought, well there's gotta be a few guys on here for something more.  You never know unless you try it, right?  Well people, I want to keep this blog PG so I'm unable to share any of my exchanges I've had through this app.  Yeah, it was that bad.

So far I had two strikes and I didn't want any more.  A fellow single gal suggested I try a different app called Plenty of Fish or POF.  Within an hour of creating my profile I had multiple guys sending me messages.  What?!  Guys actually wanting to talk?  Already things were looking up.  There were a couple of guys right off the bat where our conversations were progressing and already asking if we could meet up.  How exciting!  Prospects of getting back in the dating game!  I was excited and nervous at the same time.  I mean it had been 10 years since I've had a first date.

And then it happened... a guy asked me out.  He asked if I liked to country swing.  I used to do it back in the day and hadn't done it in years but I'm trying to take up things that I used to enjoy doing so I said yes.  He then asked me if I'd like to go dancing with him.  Woah, let the anxiety begin.  So he gave me his address so we could meet up.  Naturally I assumed we were going to meet at his house and then drive together to wherever we were going for dancing.  I got to his house and went inside and then something very weird happened.  I realized that he didn't intend to go anywhere, he wanted to dance right there in his living room.  Hahahaha!  He even moved furniture so that we'd have room. I was really trying not to let my shock show and I was a very good sport and went along with it.  So yep, my first date back in the game was country swing in a guys living room.  The stuff of every girl's fantasy.  Once we got into it it was fun and the dancing came back to me and I actually wasn't that bad.  At least I didn't think I was, he may have thought differently.  After we danced for a little while we decided to watch a movie but it also gave us a chance to talk.  He was also divorced, married for the same amount of time I was and had three children.  He just finished getting his 2nd masters degree.  He was actually a very interesting person.  Funny thing is that he's not LDS but his ex-wife was.  Just like me, he didn't want to repeat that situation so we mutually decided to have that be our first and last date.

After I got home from that "date" I was texting this other guy.  I really enjoyed talking to him because he made me laugh a lot.  After texting back and forth for an hour it was late and I told him I was going to bed.  Finally, he asked me if I wanted to get together the next day.  Two dates in two days!?  What was happening!  We made plans to meet up at the park and go for a walk.  I liked this idea because it was very relaxed and different.  We made tentative plans to meet up .  We both had family things and would contact each other when we were able to actually meet.  Well, apparently he went to Salt Lake with his family and his car broke down there and he was planning to take the train home.  Texted him a couple of times after that to get an idea of when he was going to get back and got no response.  Finally, hours after we were initially supposed to get together he texts me back and says his phone died and he just got home.  Hmmm..not sure about his story but we cancelled our plans and haven't rescheduled them.  Ehh..

Oh, and I almost forgot!  I was talking with this other guy and he seemed very sweet and nice and we were talking about possibly getting together.  And then things got weird.  He started talking about how he would give me foot massages and then asked what kind of shoes I like to wear.  Next he was asking if I'd send him pictures of me wearing said shoes.  If I didn't know any better I would think this guy had a foot/shoe fetish.  So I flat out asked him and he admitted it.  Bahahaha!  At that moment I wasn't comfortable being part of any guy's fantasies, feet or not and so that was the end of that.

So to say the least my experiences back in the dating field have been quite interesting.  I can't wait to see what else is in store...Errr, I think ;)